Someone I was working with today, discovered that the simple step of getting to bed by a certain time each night would enrich his life greatly, helping him be more alert and in a happier mood by having more rest and sleep. Sometimes, building the life full of more things you love and with less things that you would prefer to do without, requires some more self care. For bigger changes, sometimes extreme self care is in order. What is extreme self care? It will mean different things to different folks. For some, it may include eating the foods he knows is best for his focus, attention and energy, daily walks, getting to bed on time each night, going to the doctor and dentist every 3 to 6 months to make sure health is in or getting to tip top shape.
Whatever extreme self care means to you, providing it for yourself will typically support you to have the energy, will and motivation to follow through on the other life transformation and changes you are making now. Whatever changes you are making now, please do allow for time, energy and money for good self care. Keep your comments and questions coming.
To Your Continued Success....
Robb
Monday, July 28, 2008
Monday, July 21, 2008
Strengths - Finding more time for enjoyment
So, what if you have been tracking the amount of time you spend on your Strengths and you find that there is a lot of room for improvement?
Well, you may wish to start with something that is the simplist and easiest for YOU to do. That is, pick one thing for work or school that you can easily add more time doing that is within the things you do well and enjoy doing and set a goal of spending one more hour a week doing that thing. On the other side, see if there is something you do not enjoy doing and see how you can spend 30 minutes less a week doing that (while still being effective in life). For example, could you pay someone else to do that thing, delegate it at work? What if you barter, you agree to do something for someone else who agrees to do that thing for you? Who knows, if you look closely, you may discover that you can get a system set up or automate a process so it no longer is something that you dislike so much, maybe with a system set up that works for you, it becomes something you do well and enjoy? Send your comments and discoveries to me...
Keep Creating a Better Life For Yourself, One Step at a Time...
Robb
Well, you may wish to start with something that is the simplist and easiest for YOU to do. That is, pick one thing for work or school that you can easily add more time doing that is within the things you do well and enjoy doing and set a goal of spending one more hour a week doing that thing. On the other side, see if there is something you do not enjoy doing and see how you can spend 30 minutes less a week doing that (while still being effective in life). For example, could you pay someone else to do that thing, delegate it at work? What if you barter, you agree to do something for someone else who agrees to do that thing for you? Who knows, if you look closely, you may discover that you can get a system set up or automate a process so it no longer is something that you dislike so much, maybe with a system set up that works for you, it becomes something you do well and enjoy? Send your comments and discoveries to me...
Keep Creating a Better Life For Yourself, One Step at a Time...
Robb
The Attention Deficit Disorder Association Conference in Minneapolis, Minnasota July 2008
Here are some summary points from some of my notes from participating in the conference:
Some important reminders that the speakers addressed at the conference included the importance to those with ADD/ADHD challenges (and others who share those challenges) to cover some basics:
Get and stay connected socially with those who love, support and accept you for who you are and who encourage and support you.
Get work where you feel productive and appreciated.
Have constant structured support to stay focused on short term and long term goals.
Use systems and technology to help you get and stay organized.
Bring and keep fun in your life and plan for and schedule fun and social time so you support yourself in having it.
Some new things:
Research shows that having a trained and specialized ADD/ADHD Coach in your life helps you feel happier, stay focused and be more productive.
Daily exercise is key to overall mental and physical health and helps elevate mood, increase focus and is vital for those with ADD/ADHD.
Get an exercise buddy or group who will support you and you them...even nag each other to make time for exercise.
Complex exercise tends to be more stimulating and interesting so those are the best for those with ADD /ADHD to participate. (i.e. raquetball, martial arts, and other sports with many levels of complexity and mastery that offer many ways to constantly learn and improve.)
With the guidance of an expert, you may be able to get accomodations at work. It is best to enroll the services of an expert before beginning this conversation at work.
It is probably best NOT to disclose your ADD at work before enrolling the help of an expert.
Here are some summary points from some of my notes from participating in the conference:
Some important reminders that the speakers addressed at the conference included the importance to those with ADD/ADHD challenges (and others who share those challenges) to cover some basics:
Get and stay connected socially with those who love, support and accept you for who you are and who encourage and support you.
Get work where you feel productive and appreciated.
Have constant structured support to stay focused on short term and long term goals.
Use systems and technology to help you get and stay organized.
Bring and keep fun in your life and plan for and schedule fun and social time so you support yourself in having it.
Some new things:
Research shows that having a trained and specialized ADD/ADHD Coach in your life helps you feel happier, stay focused and be more productive.
Daily exercise is key to overall mental and physical health and helps elevate mood, increase focus and is vital for those with ADD/ADHD.
Get an exercise buddy or group who will support you and you them...even nag each other to make time for exercise.
Complex exercise tends to be more stimulating and interesting so those are the best for those with ADD /ADHD to participate. (i.e. raquetball, martial arts, and other sports with many levels of complexity and mastery that offer many ways to constantly learn and improve.)
With the guidance of an expert, you may be able to get accomodations at work. It is best to enroll the services of an expert before beginning this conversation at work.
It is probably best NOT to disclose your ADD at work before enrolling the help of an expert.
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Strengths: How much time do you spend with your strengths?
Strengths – It is so important to spend time using and developing our strengths….when I speak about strengths I realize there are at least two key categories of strengths. There are things we are good at, which may or may not come easily, and which we may or may not enjoy using. Today I am talking about those things we do really well and we enjoy doing them…whether it is important as to how easy or difficult it is for us to use them does not matter to me at the moment. If we enjoy them and are good at them, then, in my opinion, we should spend the majority of our time getting even better at them. Also, as much as possible, we should spend the minimum amount of time we can on the things we do not enjoy and/or do not do well (at least so much as we are still be effective and successful in life). Spending as much the majority of our time, energy and focus doing things that we do well and enjoy is a worthy and important goal in life.
Suggestion….for a week set a timer to go off once an hour, when the timer goes off, write down a quick estimate of what amount of your hour you spent on using the skills you love to use and do that for your waking day, each day for a week. If your weeks vary a lot, you may want to extend this discovery process for a month. Then come back to this blog, and we will explore what to do with the information you discover. Send me an email with what you find.
Happy Hunting.
Robb
Strengths – It is so important to spend time using and developing our strengths….when I speak about strengths I realize there are at least two key categories of strengths. There are things we are good at, which may or may not come easily, and which we may or may not enjoy using. Today I am talking about those things we do really well and we enjoy doing them…whether it is important as to how easy or difficult it is for us to use them does not matter to me at the moment. If we enjoy them and are good at them, then, in my opinion, we should spend the majority of our time getting even better at them. Also, as much as possible, we should spend the minimum amount of time we can on the things we do not enjoy and/or do not do well (at least so much as we are still be effective and successful in life). Spending as much the majority of our time, energy and focus doing things that we do well and enjoy is a worthy and important goal in life.
Suggestion….for a week set a timer to go off once an hour, when the timer goes off, write down a quick estimate of what amount of your hour you spent on using the skills you love to use and do that for your waking day, each day for a week. If your weeks vary a lot, you may want to extend this discovery process for a month. Then come back to this blog, and we will explore what to do with the information you discover. Send me an email with what you find.
Happy Hunting.
Robb
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